Reality check………..

Realization of the reality is an enormous task

But those who get it realize it fast

the reality then starts to sink

the realization makes you to more think

the thinkable reality and unthinkable reality

are the realization of a real mind

the reality of the situation is beyond real now

but the ultimate realization matters

when the true reality is yet to reach the skies

At this real point, not sure what the reality is

But the realization of the reality which matters the most always realizes the real life

Relationships

Relationships are very complex, and every relationship is unique. Just like we cannot compare apples and oranges, no relationship between couples can be compared, Every relationship may have the same challenges but peopleoperate differently. Just like there is good mothering and goodness of fit in a mother and an infant, there is a goodness of fit in a couple.Some couples just exist together for wrong reasons while some couples are together for the relationship they cherish and companion ship they adore .

So what makes a man or women cheat? Is it because for attention, love, companionship for sex? While most afffairs end in a disaster, others may open doors for liberation from a dysfnctional relationship. Most affairs never culminate in anything longterm because of the intensity of the problems and the amount of tensionand stress involved in hiding the relationship.

I suppose that temptations. exist and  likes and wants can change at any given point.But there is a way to approach the differences and it is called as the adult way or mature way

But hurting feelings by cheating is never good as you are fostering unhealty, immoral and unethical behaviors in your children who will never forgive their parents.

Cheating in a commitment

  1. Pit falls: As a married guy or awoman you have a moral obligation to your spouse. He or She loves you and trusts you. So please avoid following circumstances: 1) single men/woman who are actively dating and are not in a relationship 2) men or women going through a divorce 3) men or women recently divorced 4) being over friendly with other married men or woman 5) avoid hanging out outside of work 6) carpooling with opposite sex single people or married persons 7) lending money to opposite sex collegues 8) having lunch with married or single opposite sex in isolation 9) exchanging cell phones and calling outside of work time 10) avoid too much smiling, excess familiarity and touching
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    1. Cheating in relationships Types of Infidelity Emotional Affairs: The  emotional support that a man or a women can lend each other when they are married or in a commited relationship to someone else is considered as a emotional affair. The emotional dependance gets too personal and crosses the professional boundaries and the boundaries of friendshiphood. This writer will encourage you not to pursue this relationship even if it feels right or  your rational brain tells you that it is AOK. Because you may be headed for some blunders, as it is a slippery slope……………..
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Case on Eating Disorders

Manny is a 29 y/o male, who is slim, good -looking and a smart guy.He wants to eat

healthy and exercise. His symptoms are more related to bad food habits. He wants

to explore different foods and enjoy them again. He is not looking forward to

fast foods, but he wants to stay in between. He does not want to go crazy about

using saturated fats or sugar. He obsesses about his stomach, and he wants to be

accepted, wants to look like a model from Abercrombie. He said that he feels

confused since he feels that he is not in to that, but his self esteem depends

on it. He reports he is not satisfied with his body image, because of the little

pouch. He reports that he is spending a lot of time thinking about it, at the

gym, he stares at he mirror etc. He feels that the pouch makes him look ugly,

then he may feel that his arms are too small, if he was in control he would

avoid social situations, he pushes his abdomen inside, he avoids people in

hallways if he could.

Three things:

size of the arms

his calves feel little

his pouch

His step dad was controlling about what he wore, the kind of shirts, the food he

ate etc. There were restrictions on every step of the way. After his mother

divorced him, he was not in to the ED.

He got in to the fitness as a profession after he got out of peace corp.

His uncle was a body builder, he kept very active, but his diet was bad.

He got in to the physical fitness while in the army. He was also athletic in

school.

He fears gaining weight, and he is preoccupied with weight and food. He

understands that the weight is the result of the food. The food at the Dom is

not very healthy. The rules are not acceptable for him. He restricts himself

from eating certain foods at the Dom.

PLAUSIBLE INFERENCE:

Pt. was administered the Eating Disorder Symptom Severity Scale.

Pt. seems to meet the DSM -5 criteria for Body Dysmorphic Disorder. He is

preoccupied with he flaws in physical appearance that are not observable or

appear slight to others( for instance his abdominal pouch)

At some point he has performed and has continued to perform mirror checking to

an excessive degree, excessive grooming and comparing his appearance and trying

to pull his stomach in by holding his breath in meetings or group settings.

He has avoided social situations from sheer embarrassment in

response to his abdominal pouch(which is practically inconspicuous)

This preoccupation has caused him emotional distress and caused interference in

his social functioning.

He has comorbid anorexia nervosa traits.

This writer will use the specify at this time

WITH MUSCLE DYSMORPHIA- as he is preoccupied with the idea that his calves are

too small, and his hands are also small and insufficiently muscular in proportion

to his body.

WITH POOR INSIGHT- as he thinks that the beliefs are definitely or probably

true.

Following are the traits of Anorexia Nervosa:

Restriction of energy intake relative to his requirements

Intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat

Disturbance in the way he perceives his body image

He does not demonstrate the classic presentation of binge eating or purging

type.

He falls under the restriction category where he will accomplish the weight loss

through dieting, fasting or excessive exercise.

Diagnosis: Body Dysmorphic Disorder with Muscle Dysmorphia and poor insight

with anorexia nervosa traits or comorbid diagnosis.

Treatment Recommendation:

CBT with specific focus on BDD to follow with Dr. H

at a treatment Program ( Patient has already verbalized the follow-up)

PAST, FAMILY, SOCIAL HISTORY: He said that he was in treatment for ED for few

months in the past

PERTINENT PAST HISTORY:

Inpatient Admissions-n

Suicide Attempts: n

Outpatient Treatment:

Past Medication Trials: Seroquel, Zoloft, Gabapentin, Wellbutrin, Vistaril,

and Buspar. Pt. reports that he did not feel any relief from any medications. He

had lot of side effects from the medications.

Domestic Violence: n

PAST MEDICAL HISTORY:

Poisoning by other opiates and related narcotics

Opioid Depend, NOS

Herpes Labialis

OCD

MDD , severe, in remission

Unspecified episodic mood Disorder (ICD-9-CM 296.90)

Lack of Housing

Adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

Anxiety

Problem situation relating to social and personal history

Eating disorder